Before anybody starts getting crazy on me here about my opening title let me explain. Voyeurism has gotten a bad rap, plain & simple. Every human is a voyeur to some extent. TV, Movies, anything, & it seems the more sensual, or sexual it is, the more people love to watch it.

Of course there is the other side of the coin, & exactly how voyeurism got it’s bad rap, the peeping tom. But that’s not what we are here to discuss. Voyeurism is & can be a useful & arousing tool for any & all lovers. Whether it’s watching an erotic movie or just watching each other perform (see our Exhibitionism Article) can stimulate your sex beyond today’s limits.

Visually Speaking

For years men, almost always more than women, were considered visually excitable creatures. They can be aroused by porn, a good looking woman in a bikini or just a glimpse of a sexy outfit on a rack. Just recently we have seen a new trend in this thought though as women begin to discover the benefits of these visual aphrodisiacs.

More & more the “adult” video industry is gearing movies towards a more mixed audience. My God they are even starting to write story lines (what a concept). Many female producers have emerged with X-rated videos made just for the female, or couple audience. Try watching some of these videos together. We are not saying they are for everyone, but hey, if you get the right one you never know. We actually like to use them once & a while as a back drop to a fun evening of foreplay & sex even taking time to make pot shots at the bad ones or looking for ideas.

Men, if you want your lady to watch one of these with you, do yourself a BIG favor & try to find one that has some quality to it.

Performing For Each Others Pleasure

We are crossing over into the Exhibitionism article just a bit here, but I think it is necessary to round out this section. As we explained in the other section putting on a sensual or sexual show for your mate can fuel the fires while quenching the voyeur palette. Some of our most enjoyable evenings have been with one of us lying back & masturbating for the other, sending ourselves to heaven while the other watches. This can be very intimidating at first & does require a massive amount of trust for each other.

Start off slowly if you have never done this before & let the trust build gradually. Before you know it there isn’t much you won’t be able to do in front of each other. As the person watching the show sees you becoming more & more excited, they themselves will begin to writhe in passion. The fever will build to a point where they will usually jump on you because they can’t stand anymore.

Costumes & toys can also enhance these sessions reach the peaks you are looking for. Trust is the key. Next to communication it is vital to everything we have written on this site. Breaking down each others psychological walls brings you closer together & opens up the world of sexual bliss & contentment. This exercise in both voyeurism & exhibitionism can be a vital tool in reaching the apex of your sexual life together.

Accepting The Voyeur In All Of Us

Another part of voyeurism is everyday people watching. I have one question here for every couple out there. Why is it when a couple gets together it becomes a mortal sin to look at anyone of the opposite sex? Have our hearts stopped beating? Are we supposed to automatically forget to appreciate beauty & people that are attractive? I DON’T THINK SO! I told my wife a long time ago that the day I stop looking is the day they nail the casket closed. We have since learned to accept each others opinion of the opposite sex & will even discuss what we like & don’t like about a person’s looks.

It really shouldn’t be that harmful to anyones ego. Your mate is not looking because they want to dump you & chase them. It’s only natural to look. The only thing we feel one partner should NEVER do is drool over someone. This is just crude & very inconsiderate & men, stop with the macho crap about other good looking men. Hey, it’s all right to admit to that Robert Redford is a good looking guy…..it’s not going to diminish you as a man & will show your lady you have progressed past the “average” man.

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