So you say your relationship with your lover is pretty good. You talk about your life & job every night in front of the TV but when it comes to sex, what’s to discuss. How about everything! This may well be the most difficult thing to learn, but it is the basis by which all great sexual experiences, & great relationships begin.

First off, the old conception of the giggled whispers about sex & the “garage” boasting about sex have to go out the window.

Test Your Communication Skills

Answer the following questions as honestly as possible. If your lover is with you & you are embarrassed about taking the test write your answers down & we will compare with them later.

Please be honest!

• Can you say the word penis in front of your lover with ease?
• Can you say the word vagina in front of your lover with ease?
• Can you tell your lover what makes you feel great in bed?
• Can you tell your lover what you hate in bed?
• Have you ever discussed your fantasies with your lover?
• Have you ever discussed your past lovers with your current lover?
• Do you talk during Sex? (not about the days events)
• Are you taking this test with your lover?
• Is your current lover the best you’ve ever had?
• If not could you tell them why?

If you honestly answered yes to all ten questions you’re ready to move on. If less than 5 you need some work on these skills. If less than 3 we have to do some serious work here.

Match your answers with your lover. Just by taking this test & comparing notes we have started the process of good sexual communication.

The Simple Truth

The basic fact most people never consider in a sexual relationship is that if you cant communicate your needs & desires to your lover things will never get any better. We have spoken to too many couples who feel their sex life is in a rut but won’t discuss the problem with each other. Plain & simple, it will never get fixed if your partner doesn’t know what’s wrong. They will also never know what’s wrong until you tell them. Talking about sex should come as easily as talking about buying a new car.

While sex alone shouldn’t be the only basis for a good relationship it has been the death of many relationships that might have been saved. A partner that feels their needs and desires aren’t being met in the bedroom may look to fulfill those needs elsewhere when the problem could be solved by discussing what each partner is interested in sexually. Too many couples have been torn apart, even though they truly loved each other, because someone in the relationship went out looking for someone to “do things” their mate didn’t do. What’s sad about this is the fact that many of these “wandering” partners never asked their mate, in fact they never discussed their sex life at all. Too many people feel their sexual curiosities and fantasies are “odd” or “not normal” so they feel they can’t discuss it with their lover. What many of these people don’t know is 99% of these thoughts are completely normal and most of the time their partner is having similar (or their own) thoughts about sex.

Too many people expect an amazing sex life to just happen automatically. When it doesn’t happen they tend to keep the problem to themselves and never discuss the issues with their lover. The issues build over time and may lead to a no sex relationship, cheating or divorce. If these couples only took the time to talk to their lover about what they want and need many issues could be solved. If a couple can communicate about their sex life the other communication problems seem easy! So click on one of the links to the left & let’s start turning your sex life into something they can write books about.

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