As your relationship progress's to a new level of trust & eroticism you may want to really stir things up with some spur of the moment, never saw that coming sex. It's exactly what it sounds like, grab them & make love to them. Don't ask them first, that ruins the surprise. This must be done when things are right though & requires some knowledge of your partners mood at that moment. It also requires some knowledge of what your partners reaction to this may be.

This should not be attempted when your lover is involved in something that they feel they must finish or when their state of mind or mood isn't where it should be. Besides those simple rules, there are no rules. Any place you feel comfortable with having sex will work, at any time.

This activity can help to relieve many frustrations about sex becoming boring as well as catering to some common fantasies about being ravished. The last psychological advantage about this is the ability of each partner to throw caution to the wind for a brief moment & forget about the world & their problems.

Adding Danger to Surprise

If you feel really daring & the two of you have discussed it before hand you can really take this to a new level. As we discussed in our dangerous sex page located in the getting kinky section, adding some danger to your sexual adventures can really get the adrenaline pumping. When coupling this with spontaneity things can get quite wild. Images of dressing rooms, public bathrooms & cars come to mind. If you've got the guts this is the ultimate thrill, just remember they can lock you up for some of these activities so if you get caught don't tell them I said it was OK!

Some of Our Favorites

For those of you that need a couple of hints, we recommend the following scenarios. One of our favorites is to wait for the other to climb in the shower & give them time to get clean. Before they have a chance to get out you climb in! The only hitch to this one is if your lover has a habit of locking the door when showering, in which case learn to silently break in!

My personal favorite is the middle of the night sneak attack. Granted this one is not for everyone, but if you start slowly you can usually get your lover very excited before they are even fully awake. I must warn you though that this one takes really knowing your partner. If they are a grump when they wake up you just may want to skip it. We don't need any 3 am fights! As with all of the suggestions in these pages, use what you like or come up with your own. Sexual creativity is a giant step in the right direction.

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