As couples become "comfortable" with each other & their relationship the time for romance, love & sex seems to dwindle away into the routine of everyday life. This is usually the beginning of sexual & relationship problems. Daily life seems to swallow up any time for "Amore". One way to combat this all too common problem is to set aside times for each other, basically setting up dates with your lover.
Every relationship suffers from the grind of life. Bills, kids, bosses & everyday nonsense can bring your love life (& sex life) to a screeching halt. One way of combating this "life fatigue" is to plan a simple one night, or day, getaway. As we mentioned in our dates section, the point of these exercises is quality time with your lover without the everyday worries....
As your relationship progress's to a new level of trust & eroticism you may want to really stir things up with some spur of the moment, never saw that coming sex. It's exactly what it sounds like, grab them & make love to them. Don't ask them first, that ruins the surprise. This must be done when things are right though & requires some knowledge of your partners mood at that moment. It also requires some knowledge of what your partners reaction to this may be....
I don't know anyone who doesn't like a good massage. It can be relaxing & sensual at the same time. It also shows your lover that you are willing to take the time to truly please them & cater to their needs. As you melt away your lovers stress & strain from everyday life you also break down the walls & boundaries that life puts up, allowing them to open up sexually as well as physically....
One very enjoyable way to spend time with your lover is a romantic bath together. This exercise can be soothing as well as erotic for both of you. If you happen to be one of the lucky ones who own a hot tub you've really got the makings of a great night & probably already make use of it for this very purpose....
Whether dating that someone special or having been married for 50 years, most people think the mood for romance is something that only has to do with that moment. Lovers also seem to forget that each persons stress levels, work loads & day to day nonsense can have a profound effect on their desire to engage in any sexual activities. Lovers often take the old "I'm not in the mood" as a personal insult. Most of the time this is not the case. Knowing what's going on in your partners life & how they react to life's trials & tribulations will often help you with setting the mood at the right time & place....