Every day I read the paper & watch the news. The divorce rate is at 60% this year, my god why bother! I hear that friends & family are getting divorced, it just didn't work. To be honest with you I get so damn mad, & sometimes hurt that I want to run off into the sunset screaming. What the hell is wrong with all of these people? Is it that they don't think before getting married, or has divorce become the easy excuse for people that are too damn lazy to put some effort into their relationship?

I'm honestly starting to believe there should be a test required prior to getting married & a minimum required time to make an effort before being granted a divorce.

Now I do understand some of these divorces & have myself seen some horrible marriages that had to end, it does happen. What I don't understand is the people who get divorced over petty differences. I see articles & TV shows about how men & women are so different & why they have so much trouble, in general, understanding each other. Hell yes we're different, it wouldn't be much fun if we were the same. What bothers me about the whole thing are most couples inability to accept these differences & communicate their wants, needs & desires to each other. Why doesn't someone open their mouth & talk about it. OK, you're probably saying they talk, but you know what, they don't listen to each other! What is the good of talking if no ones listening!

I don't know, maybe I'm the strange one. I always said that once I got married I was going to do whatever it took to make it work. I was told by a very wise lady, my aunt, that marriage & relationships are a 100% giving proposition with minimal returns. I'm also probably very lucky, I found the woman of my dreams & she feels as strongly about our relationship & this plague of divorce as I do. Now don't get me wrong, our marriage has had it's problems & ups & downs, everyone's has them, but we worked through them together & came out of the problems together. Do we fight? Yes, once & a while we do, but we have learned what we consider to be the key element of solving these arguments & our problems, it's called communication!

Just like anything else in this world, if no one mentions the problem or airs their grief's, nothing will ever change. Imagine how bad the governments would become if they were allowed to go years on end with no one challenging them or complaining about problems. It would be havoc, & folks that's exactly what is happening to a lot of relationships out there. Both parties keep it bottled in, except for the screaming matches when no one's listening anymore, until finally one day someone says it's over.

People spend so much time talking these days but no one seems to hear what the other is saying. Have we all forgotten how to communicate on an honest & open level? I honestly believe a lot of it has to do with this success driven, rapid-fire, do or die society we have created. Everyone is working day in & day out trying to reach the pinnacle of what we perceive to be success, a big house, 2 cars, 2.5 kids (god I love that term, what idiot thought of that) & a fat bank book.

Lately we all seem to beat ourselves silly trying to reach these goals & completely forget that life is about love, friends & family. It has to stop soon or we will probably destroy ourselves as a race. If most couples would put 1/10 the amount of effort into their marriage as they did their careers I think the divorce rate would drop through the floor. I mean really, what the hell good is money, cars & the other material things in life if you're not happy!

Another big pet peeve of mine & a big reason for breakups is cheating. Except for the few people out their who just can't keep it in their pants, or their pants on so to speak, I honestly think most of these problems stem from, once again, the couples inability to communicate their wants, needs & desires to each other. I've heard people say "it got boring", well who's fault is that. Did you try anything to spice it up? NO! Once again, if no one knows it's broken it won't get fixed! Every relationship goes through phases of sexual boredom yet there are a million things to do to help with this. That's basically were the idea for this site came from.

When I first came up with the idea for this web site I was thinking primarily about how hard it is for the average couple to get information on sexual activities that might interest them. As I stated in the preview pages of this site, my wife & I have spent years searching for this very information. We never wanted to get bored with each other sexually so we explored the possibilities. It has been a painstaking, sometimes very embarrassing 15 years. Plain & simple it is very tough to find information on spicing up your sex life. Granted the bookstores are loaded with books on this subject, but most of them read like a dictionary. Even the ones that are worth reading never seem to tell you how to get involved in these activities. They just throw the information at you & let you figure it out for yourself.

Through years of this research we have found many things to be very enjoyable that at one time probably would have shocked us. What did we get for all of these years of work.....one amazing sex life & a great relationship. Hence we decided to start this site. As the site started going together I started to realize that we have a lot more to offer here than just sex advice. We have the ability to give couples a "safe haven" away from their everyday maniacal life. A place to come & learn, meet new people & discuss new ideas without the fear of ridicule & just have some fun!

When first presented with the idea of posing for pictures & divulging sexual secrets about ourselves, both myself & my wife were a little leery. What would happen if our friends & families found out. This attitude has also changed with the building of the site. I for one, & my wife are proud of who we are & are not going to run & hide from what we believe to be a great way of life, sexually & otherwise.

We honestly hope you will join us & at least try, for your own good & the good of your relationship. We also realize that some of the content of this site may be quite shocking to some. To those we would say, if it bothers you DON'T LOOK. Use only the parts of the site that appeal to you. No one, & I mean no one is forcing anyone into anything that they are bothered by, but we do feel that this site has a little something for everyone.

Sex isn't everything in a relationship, but it is a common bond that may just start the process to bring each & every one of you a better relationship with your lover. The common thread throughout this entire site though, is communication. Look at your husband, wife or lover & really think about how you feel about them deep down inside. Think about everything you have been through together both good & bad & what originally brought you together. I know deep down inside there is a well of passion & emotion that is dying to be tapped & that person you are looking at is the one who probably deserves it more than anyone else in the world. Stop the preconceived faces you put on for the rest of the world & open up to your lover, tell them how you feel, really feel. Let them know that you are there for them & will be through thick & thin. Let them know you care! You'll be amazed how good it feels & above all COMMUNICATE WITH THEM!

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