Now I know what most of you are probably thinking; “pay for phone sex when I travel?” Nope sorry, that is not what this article is about. As a matter of fact that’s exactly the opposite of this idea but it can add some hot nights to those trips away from home. Granted it’s not for everyone but if both partners can get into this it can really relieve the tensions found in relationships where one (or both) mates travel for a living! What I am talking about is having phone sex with your mate.

The Phone Sex Puzzle Pieces

There are several very important factors to successful phone sex with your “traveling” mate. First and foremost you both should be able to talk about sex openly and easily. If you haven’t hit this goal yet I would highly suggest you both check into our sex talk article. Not only will you need to be able to talk to your mate about sex it will intensify the experience tremendously if you can both use a little “dirty talk”. The basic idea is you are both going to tell each other what you want them to do to themselves and be able to verbalize the feelings you are each having to each other!

Next you BOTH need to be completely open and honest about masturbation with your mate. Honestly if you haven’t made it to the point where you both know, and accept, that each other masturbates this is not for you. If your still “stuck” at this point I would highly recommend you start reading our masturbation articles!

The other ingredients are as follows:

• You will need a phone (duh), but more importantly a “hands free” head set for both of you will help free up hands that could be doing other things. These days I also recommend Skype or your preferred video IM software.
• Each of you should have your favorite toy handy. A great vibrator, or dildo, for her and a masturbator for him. Of course if you are traveling by plane this may not be possible. (some suggestions below)
• A sense of fun, excitement and a little danger always helps
• Last (but probably the most important factor) – Privacy! Make sure the kids are sound asleep and your hotel walls aren’t paper thin! We definitely don’t want the neighbors and kids hearing now do we?

Once you have all the ingredients together plan a pre-arranged time for one of you to call the other. Both of you should be set up and ready to have fun before the call is made. One note here; this phone call should NOT be used to discuss your day, the kids, the bills or any other reason! Leave those topics for another call, or for afterwards. Allow each of you to ask the other “what they are doing now”. As each of you tell each other what you are doing and what you want the other to do use your individual toy to masturbate yourself. Allow each of you to build up the sensations together, don’t let one of you get ahead of the other! Try not to become silent on your mate, keep the talk going.

One giant part of making this work for both of you is to allow yourselves to act out the part of one of those phone sex operators. Just as they would lead the “the caller” along, both of you need to tease each other with juicy little tidbits to keep the sensations growing. Saying things like “Oh baby, you feel so good” may seem corny at first glance but in the heat of the moment this little comments can send your partner through the roof!

Adding Roleplay To Phone Sex

For those of you who want to take this a little further and enjoy roleplay you can set these phone sex sessions up as if one of you is a phone sex operator who doesn’t know the “caller”. The “operator” has to play the game out exactly as you would imagine a real phone sex operator would. Starting of with simple chat (your name, what you like etc) followed by asking the caller what they want the operator to do. The operator in this roleplay has really got to be able to act out and tell the caller what they are doing. Ladies really need to work on those moans and groans too. Let him hear you building up the passion and then having an earth shattering orgasm! Guys, don’t think you get off easy on this one either! You need to work on this too, even though it may sound weird to you. Allowing your lover to hear you building up to having an orgasm it vital! Remember, what’s good for the gander is also good for the goose!

Phone Sex Travel Tips

As I mentioned before traveling by plane can make hauling sex toys around somewhat difficult (and potentially embarrassing) but there are a few items that can make it easier! For the men there are 100% silicone masturbators like the The Stroker. This toy is only 6.5 inches long and is easily packed in your suitcase. Since there are no metal parts at all the x-ray machine alarms wont go off! Now for ladies it can be a touch tougher. There are 100% silicone or rubber dildos that can be safely packed but getting a vibrator through the bag check can be tricky. All those batteries, wires and motors seem to set off the alarm every damn time! One great travel friendly vibrator is the LELO Lily. This vibrator comes with a nice looking case, doesn’t look like a traditional vibrator and feels wonderful. It can be easily dropped into your purse and should (mind you I said should) run right through the x-ray machine with no problem. Of course if you are really nervous about traveling with toys there is the old “hand” method!

Phone sex with your mate can, and will help to eliminate those lonely nights away from home when you crave sex. It can add a special intimacy to your relationship for the simple fact of showing your mate they can excite you to orgasm even when you are thousands of miles apart. Phone Sex can also help build your sexual communication with each other and may help you both learn to verbalize more during sex when you are together. Lastly, it can also build up some great sexual tensions leading to the return home so plan for that first night home to include some amazing sex!

Personally I can’t think of a better way to spend a lonely evening in a hotel room!

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