Welcome! This section is written as a guideline for anyone wishing to pleasure a woman orally. Oral sex is close to the ultimate in intimacy. It involves sharing yourself in a very personal and uninhibited way. It can be one of the most pleasurable, satisfying things you experience, and at the same time, it can make you feel a bit vulnerable. Sex is not just for procreation. It is for sharing pleasure, it is for lovers that want to help their partner experience the joys of sexuality, sensuality and to achieve the ultimate orgasm, and the ultimate in closeness. Many women consider orgasm through oral sex to be a lost art, (those that have found it in the past) to be searched for like the lost pyramids of Egypt. Some partners just don’t have a clue. It is an undertaking of communication, sensuality and sensitivity. Don’t be afraid… we’ll get through it step by step.

A Woman’s Point Of View

First, any undertaking needs a little background. Please see articles: Her Body, Masturbation For Her and Women’s Orgasm. You’re back already? Once you are both in a trusting yet adventurous mood, begin by gently moving your tongue over her stomach in a circular motion. Move slowly down over her hip to the upper thigh and then to the inside of the thigh. Try to keep a steady, soft touch that will arouse her, keeping in contact with her skin at all times. One of the keys to stimulating this area is to build the excitement slowly with anticipation. From the inside of one thigh, gently retrace the path of your tongue and move to the other leg. Return to the stomach and slowly move the circles down to the pubic hair, just brushing gently against her downy softness.

Build the excitement with slow, gentle circles of pleasure. Work your way down over the clitoris to the vaginal lips, still moving in small circles. Gently work your way between the lips. Remember, you are teasing her into arousal. Then retrace your path back up over the clitoris. This process should take five minutes bare minimum for your partner to become sufficiently excited. Don’t rush the process or her. Always monitor her breathing, body movements, verbal noises (is she purring yet?), and any other clues that she is becoming aroused.

Now begin to add your breath to the motion of your tongue. Breath in through your nose to warm your breath, and gently exhale through your mouth on her skin where you have touched her. Don’t underestimate the effect of warmed air and the anticipation she may have of your lips and tongue on her skin. Softly, softly. Your breath can work to increase the heat of her skin, allowing more blood to flow to that area. This will further increase the localized heat and the ability of her body to feel pleasure. Place your kisses and an occasional flick of the tongue. Some women enjoy having your tongue slid inside her. Try it and check the response. Does she arch her back when you do it, asking for more?

Build the excitement for both of you. Each time you pass the clitoris, gently exhale on the area and follow with a soft kiss and flick of the tongue. Move to the vaginal lips, doing the same. Gently and progressively part the lips with your tongue, moving south to north and slowly back down. Alter the amount of tongue surface used, from just the very tip to eventually a wide stroke. Now move in for the kill, so to speak. At this point, she will be extremely wet and ready to come, maybe even begging a little to stop all that teasing. Direct your tongue back to her clitoris and stay there, using circular or up and down motions. Follow her lead on the speed and method that you lick her. Some women like to build their orgasms slowly, others want it fast. Everyone is different. Once you find the correct rhythm, stay with it and only alter it if she tells you to. Do not stop, no matter what her movements are & hold on for the ride, enjoy!

A Mans Point Of View

I am one of those strange men, or I’ve been told, who absolutely loves giving oral sex to a woman. I almost enjoy it as much as anything else sexually. Don’t know why, but then again I’ve never had any complaints, so as they say, “If it ain’t broke don’t fix it. Over the years I’ve come across (& developed) a few tricks that I’d like to pass along. As with all of our tips & tricks these may not work for you, but you’ll never know till you try.

One of my favorites is what I call “giving head to a woman”. It is very simple actually but does require a bit of practice. This also works a thousand times better when she is already excited so get her worked up first. Spread her vaginal lips completely open with one hand & expose her clitoris. You may have to pull it’s hood back a bit, but try to get it as exposed as possible. When a woman is excited her clitoris will swell with blood very much in the same way that the penis does. Once you have it in sight GENTLY put your lips around it & begin to suck & swirl it around your lips. Make sure she is well lubricated & try different amounts of suction, starting gently & progressing slowly. Make sure to pay attention to her movements & listen for any sign that you may be sucking a bit too hard. Try & get a steady rhythm going just as you would want her to do. This can create earth-shattering orgasms in some women, whereas others get absolutely nothing from it. One last note on this is teeth, DON’T DO IT. One wrong move on a sharp tooth will ruin all of your hard work!

Another trick that builds upon what she said above is what I call the “super suction”. After spending several minutes, hours, whatever with your tongue & have her juices flowing well I like to bring my face in close & take a giant inward breath through a half to one quarter opened mouth. The cold air rushing into your mouth over her moistened vagina will drive her up the wall. I know it’s a little bit like shock therapy but it really does work on some women. Afterwards I will go right back to the tongue & lips for a while & then repeat. If she likes it do the old shampoo instructions, rinse, lather & repeat as necessary..just ad in the suck after lather!

Finally is one trick that could either drive her wild or make her ask you what the hell you think you are doing (proceed carefully). After a few minutes of preliminary oral sex I will reach over to my drink and grab an ice cube and put it in my mouth. Now, we do NOT want to drop that cold cube on her! What I do is allow the ice cube to slowly melt in my mouth while I’m giving her oral sex. The traces of cold water spilling out as you lick her can create an amazing reaction. Try not to let too much cold water spill out (a bit of a juggling act between swallowing and licking) but just the subtle traces of cold mingled with your warm mouth create counter sensations.

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