Now that you've spent some time alone & possibly discovered some new ideas for your own masturbation sessions, it's time to use these ideas during your time with your partner. All great foreplay should include some mutual masturbation in conjunction with oral sex, massage or any other idea that the two of you enjoy.

Making this mutual masturbation effective for both of you during foreplay is, once again, nothing more than communication between you & your lover. As you find new ideas & sensations during your private masturbation sessions, try to start incorporating them into your foreplay. Not being afraid to ask your partner to try doing something different is probably the biggest hurdle to jump.

Since we assume by this point you have opened the lines of dialogue with your lover, & both of you have opened your minds up to the possibilities & the acceptance of new ideas, we hope this communication will go smoothly. If communication is still at a trickle we would suggest you attempt to steer your lover in the right direction when they are performing masturbation on you. Don't be afraid to guide their hand to a certain spot or ask them to do something in a different way. You should also guide them through this verbally, telling them when they have it right.

For those of you being guided through this, make sure to listen to your partner. They above all people can tell you what works & what doesn't. Watch their body language & watch for quivers, shakes & breathing changes. Try changing to oral sex for a few moments & then return to masturbating them. This "change-up" technique will allow many more sensations to be enjoyed by your lover & will keep any given masturbation technique from becoming overbearing.

Try adding some toys to the fun & things can really get going. Mutual masturbation is a wonderful tool to use on women who require extra stimulation to reach orgasm. Focusing on their orgasm not only shows you care about their feelings, but will heighten the entire experience for both of you. You may even want to make it a goal that she has at least one orgasm prior to intercourse every time you make love.

Using Body Parts

One of the best tricks we have found is masturbation of your lover with your body parts. This can add stimulation for you at the same time you are taking your lover to new levels. For example try this: With the woman on top, as if to mount you for intercourse, use your penis to masturbate her with an back & forth motion. This can be coupled with brief interludes of intercourse & then back to her pleasure. Using the head of your penis, rub up & down her vulva & clitoral area. As she becomes more excited increase the speed of you strokes. This will usually bring any orgasmic woman to a great climax, at which time you are poised for penetration & your satisfaction.

Women can also use their breasts to masturbate him. Taking the penis between her breasts & allowing him to glide up & down between them can be a wonderful sensation for a man. Try adding some baby oil for a smoother time. Press your breasts together, around his penis in varying amounts of pressure. It's sure to please.

These are just a few of the great ideas that add a little spice to any foreplay time. If you start becoming creative with this time you will soon have many new ideas of your own. Experiment, experiment, experiment...that's the only way to find what is best for you & your lover. Along with this experimentation make sure you tell each other what you liked, & didn't & be truthful about it. Don't ever be afraid to say you didn't enjoy something, & make sure to tell them when it was GREAT!

Mutual Masturbation Extends Foreplay

No matter how you do it, with body parts, toys or your hands mutual masturbation will extend your foreplay time. The adding stimulation to her may allow her a better chance at orgasm or possible multiple orgasms. One word of caution though for the men. If you feel yourself coming to close to orgasm from your partner's masturbation make sure to say something or just stop them until you can regain control. This usually only takes a few minutes and I'm sure your partner will understand, especially if your partner is anticipating intercourse. Nothing is worse than losing control of yourself during foreplay and having to stop or postpone the evening's events. Take it from someone who has experienced it first hand (no pun intended), you have to know when to say when.

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