Ah yes, the dreaded M word. It instantly provokes snickers & blushing, thoughts of parental lectures & sometimes even images of being caught in the act. Everyone denies doing it as if it carried the death penalty for an admission.

The fact of the matter is everyone at one time or another has or will masturbate. It is as normal & natural as eating & sleeping. It is a great tool to relieve everyday stress, explore both your own body as well as your mind's fantasies.

What Has This Got To Do With Having Better Sex?

That's a great question but indulge us for a few minutes and we will explain. Plain & simple, how can you communicate to your lover what you like & don't like if you are not sure yourself? This is even more true if you are a little shy about trying something for the first time with a partner. Masturbating gives you the freedom to go anywhere you want sexually without fear of ridicule. It also lets you "test drive" new ideas to be sure you are comfortable with them prior to trying them out with your partner. It also gives you time to explore yourself & take some time just for you. Before you can explore a better sex life with your partner you MUST understand what you enjoy!

Making Time For Yourself

In today's hectic world making time for yourself to explore your sexual needs seems impossible & sometimes the privacy required to masturbate is even tougher. We recommend all couples using this site discuss the topic of time & privacy before proceeding. Each partner should allow the other a time for them to lock the bedroom door & masturbate. Both parties must understand the need for this "private" time & encourage the other to use this time to it's fullest. The rewards of this exercise will become invaluable as each partner becomes a more rounded "sexual person". Of course you may want to adjust this exercise to your individual needs.

But I've Never Done It Before!

As hard as it is to believe, some people have never masturbated. If you are one of those people we strongly encourage you to start as soon as possible. Take the time out of a couple of days a week & lock out the world completely! Turn off the phone, lock the door & do something that is not only good for you, but for your sex life. Don't be embarrassed because no one will know!

You must break down the walls & barriers that were built during your childhood & masturbation is the best place to start. For those women who have never had an orgasm this self awareness is vital. For women who have orgasms these sessions may help lead you to a multi-orgasmic sex life & more intense orgasms. For men these exercises will help with premature ejaculation problems & longevity.

To steal an old quote, "But above all be true unto thyself". Masturbation is the key to being true to your sexual needs both physically & mentally.

I don't need these exercises, I do it all the time!

Ah yes, but do you learn anything from it. Now were not saying every masturbation session must be a lesson, but curing some of your problems in the bedroom (with a partner) may start by changing your masturbation habits. As with the above paragraph, these sessions could be a tool to becoming a better lover & opening your mind to new experiences. Give it a try you never know what you may accomplish.

Masturbation Sections For Him and Her

We have written sections for both the women and the men with more specific information written especially for you. Our Masturbation for Him and Masturbation for Her sections will help you with things like exploring, trying new things and different techniques. We also have a section just for the men about learning to control ejaculation through masturbation. Once you have both read your individual sections you may want to read our Mutual Masturbation section to add a new level to your foreplay.

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