We have written this section in an effort to explain the female orgasm so that men can understand what exactly happens to a woman during orgasm & maybe give them some insight on this subject. We hope that by better understanding the female orgasm men may redirect their attention away from their own pleasure somewhat & work towards helping their lovers achieve orgasm. We also hope this section will help with a female question we have heard over & over. How do I know when I've had an orgasm? This question is actually more common than one would think.

Overall, by de-mystifying both the female & male orgasm somewhat we hope to open the minds & educate both lovers so that each can have a better understanding of their lovers desires & needs & become more sensitive to each others needs. We would ask that both lovers read each orgasm section & discuss what they feel before, during & after an orgasm. These accounts of the sensations during orgasm are derived from different women & may not be exactly what you feel during orgasm, so take the time to explain your personal sensations to your lover. This communication between you could lead to changes in your sexual practices by both parties, leading to a more pleasurable experience for both.

The Clitoral Orgasm

When the clitoris is stimulated, blood rushes to this area making it extremely sensitive. The clitoris will usually engorge with blood, actually becoming erect, quite like the male penis. There is a warmth that begins in that area & can travel up to their head or all the way down through their legs & to their feet. Their nipples become erect and some even produce a little milk. The skin all over their body becomes a little warmer and more sensitized. Many women may blush all over their body & they may begin to perspire. They get a little light-headed, maybe a bit dizzy or seem to be in their own little world. They may become quite vocal, making guttural sounds, moaning, or even screaming! The contraction of vaginal muscles is felt in waves and shudders throughout the genital area, and may be felt in other parts of the body as well. Some women have their orgasms last only as long as they are being stimulated. Other women continue to have these wonderful spasms for minutes after the stimulation has stopped, or while they press their genitals against their partner's leg or other body parts.

Vaginal Orgasm

It should first be noted that many women find it difficult or even impossible to reach orgasm through vaginal stimulation alone. While basically the same as a clitoral orgasm, the vaginal orgasm can be much more intense, "deeper," so to speak. Vaginal stimulation creates an almost insatiable need for "more," making it virtually impossible to "sit still." The feeling is intense, the throat sounds tend to be deeper, and at some point, almost without fail, "God" somehow enters into the conversation. The orgasm itself is a great explosion, a feeling of vaginal fluids washing down from the inside, creating a warm, wet feeling (even more so than when you started). While the clitoris may be too sensitive to withstand additional stimulation immediately after a clitoral orgasm, the same isn't generally true vaginally. Unless, of course, she's just too damn exhausted to handle another orgasm, continuing the penetration can make for quite a wild experience.

G Spot Orgasm

G Spot Orgasm seems to have become the illusive game everyone's after lately with new G Spot Vibrators and techniques coming out every day. In actuality this mysterious pleasure spot has been documented back as far as the 4th century B.C. The actual "spot" for most women is located directly behind the clitoris, inside the vagina. It has been described by some as a small patch that can be identified by it's distinctive "ribs". We have also seen references to "imaging a small clock inside the vagina with 12 o'clock pointed towards the navel." The majority of women will have the G Spot located between 11 and 1 o'clock a few inches inside the vagina. Others have described it as being buried within the wall and not able to be felt by touch. This patch on some women will swell as the woman's excitement increases, with the ribs becoming more pronounced.

Stimulating the G Spot may require more pressure than clitoral stimulation as this lima bean sized spot is within the vaginal wall. Many women have described the first sensations as similar to having to urinate, and due to this many will stop any stimulation for fear of an accident. Time and patience will probably be needed to actually locate the G Spot but the orgasms from it are well worth the wait. A good way to explore for the G Spot is to have her lay on her back while he inserts a finger(s) into the vagina. Bending his fingers slightly forward he will locate her pelvic bone. Once the pelvic bone has been located he should find a smooth section on the front wall. Moving back and forth across the front and applying slight pressure while she describes the sensation you. remember, stroking may not produce and sensations. He should apply a light massage to the area.

G Spot orgasm during intercourse may be very difficult for most couples. Most positions will not allow the penis to contact the G Spot, however several rear entry positions have been know to allow contact.

Finally it has been reported that a G Spot orgasm will produce a fluid discharge from the vagina, otherwise known as female ejaculation. While this might be true for some it is not always the case. We know women who ejaculate and have never had a G Spot orgasm. If you do experience this be assured it is NOT urine!

Female Ejaculation

Female ejaculation is a phenomenon that seems to have come to light in the past 15 or so years. Fortunately this is not true. It has been documented for thousands of years, unfortunately doctors have chosen to ignore it until lately. For many years doctors insisted that these fluids must be urine, only to be proven wrong within the last several years. Little is still know about it except that the fact that for many women it is extremely natural, while others will never experience it.

Current studies have pointed to a gland known as the urethral sponge that wraps around the woman's urethra. This gland is best described as a sponge. When the woman becomes aroused this sponge swells and close down the urethra, effectively shutting off the ability to urinate. It encircles the urethra and contains up to 30 glands that swell with rising sexual excitement. The fluid that is created during sexual arousal in these glands is an alkaline liquid similar to male prostatic fluid. It is this fluid that may make up female ejaculate.¹

Ejaculation for a woman can vary from a mild gush of fluid to literal geyser. The fluid can range from clear to a milky white consistency. As this is not a widely known female trait, many lovers will become quite confused when their female partner first ejaculates. By the same token many women experiencing their first orgasm may also be quite confused if they ejaculate. If you or your lover experience ejaculation be assured that their is nothing abnormal about you, as a matter of fact we consider it rather special.

If you are a woman that ejaculates & are going to be with a lover for the first time we would suggest you mention it to them beforehand. I know this may seem a bit awkward to do but the average man has probably never been with a woman who ejaculates & may become quite confused or concerned if not pre-warned.

¹ wikipedia.org

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