Telling about an infection

[eyes4u]

What do you do if you have a yeast infection so you don't want to have sex but you don't want to tell either. I mean I know it's nothing you did, could just be from other antibiotics... but the last thing you want to do is explain or have sex.

[LoLo]

If it is someone you are in a relationship with, I would think it wouldn't be a problem to discuss it with them. Like you said, a yeast infection is common and generally related to infidelity.

[clarissa]

Ummm yeast infections are NOT related to infidelity they are just related to an increased amount of yeast in the body commonly from taking antibiotics for an ear infection, throat infection etc. If you are not comfortable enough to tell your partner that you have a yeast infection you probably shouldn't be having sex together anyway. Yeast infections can be passed back and forth through intercourse so if you have one and do have sex use protection.

[Claudia]

You should be able to tell your partner about having an infection and vice-versa. Or you may be passing the infection to each other unknowingly.

[Sasha]

Clarissa is absolutely right. If you can't tell your partner something simple like that, then this is not someone you should be intimate with in the first place. I would absolutely tell my husband about an infection and I would expect him to tell me if he had something out of the ordinary going on.

Look at the alternative - you don't tell him, blow off sex, and then he ends up thinking it is something he did or that you're not feeling attracted to him.

[Sasha]

Clarissa is absolutely right. If you can't tell your partner something simple like that, then this is not someone you should be intimate with in the first place. I would absolutely tell my husband about an infection and I would expect him to tell me if he had something out of the ordinary going on.

Look at the alternative - you don't tell him, blow off sex, and then he ends up thinking it is something he did or that you're not feeling attracted to him.

[metoo]

Since I am married there would be no problem. But if I was dating I would probably tell the guy I was on my period. Unless we were in a long term relationship and had been dating for awhile.

[snowman]

I agree with Sasha and Clarissa. It's better to be honest to your partner before you do more damage to you both. I don't want us misunderstanding each other about the reasons we don't want to have sex.

[Ktylove]

Totally agree with the honesty approach. It may seem like something minor right now, but little lies grow up to be big lies over time. And then later you may slip, years down the road, mention that yeast infection you had that you lied about, and then your partner will wonder about what else you've lied about...believe me, I've been there, done that, and it's AWFUL.

Hence I'm on marriage #2 - all honest this time, from the beginning, and soooooo much better (15 years and still going strong!)

[catlin]

Well for that case for a female you could always say you are having some spotting or something like that, a little white lie is not a bad thing.

Now if you are trying to hide something like say, Gonorrhea that is another story. Short story, my mother was married twice before she met my father. Her first husband had actually went to the doctor to get checked out and found out he had Gonorrhea. How did he find out? His doctor called the house with the results, my mother answered and before the day was over she was filing the divorce papers.