He was taken advantage of...

[SweetnSexy]

My boyfriend and I were best friends for a couple years before we ever even considered there being a relationship between the two of us. Because of this, I know a lot of the dark secrets from his past, things that happened in his most serious relationship that he probably wouldn't have told me otherwise, etc.

One of those things was that his girlfriend used to use him for sex/oral sex. I know it's not usually men who you think of being taken advantage of, but she would call him in at night to come over and please her....and he'd never get anything in return (even during sex, if she finished first, then playtime was over).

Now that we're together, I have a tendency to think of this when he wants to please me. Obviously I shouldn't, but I can't help but think that maybe he's doing it because he feels obligated or he was "trained" to do it, even though he says he enjoys it and wants to. Anything to ease my mind?

[Tazzzzzzz]

I think you need to sit down and talk and let him know your feelings. Does he ever initiate sex? I think you should encourage this from him and let him know that it is something that both should get pleasure out of. Maybe spend a few times solely on his pleasure and let him know it is ok to have fun and that you get pleasure from pleasing him.

Tazzzzzzz

[purple]

The only way he will be "un-trained" is by learning that pleasuring you isn't the end ofthe evening. Whether he is or not, its not hard to retrain a person's brain to a different pattern. After a couple times of pleasuring you and then being pleasured he'll have the right idea. But do talk to him and ask that he be honest if he doesn't enjoy doing it.