Reserved Partner

[Tazzzzzzz]

My partner (wife) is very close-minded when it comes to sex and I want to try a lot of different things. It took me years just for me to get her to touch her own breasts while we had sex and she will NOT touch "down there". I wanted to try to bring toys but she was against it until I snuck a tapered candle into the room and used it one night. We now have a few toys but the new has worn off. I've tried to talk to her but she just isn't comfortable talking about sex.

Any ideas?

Tazzzzzzz

[slinky]

The first one that comes to mind is get her drunk, but thats not a long term solution. Unfortunately I think some people will never be able to be sexually free without lots of therapy to dig through the repressed issues and taboos forced on us by soceity, our peers, and our religion (if you are in one that has rules for that sort of thing). The fact that you have made progress is good, so if you keep that in mind and don't give up you should be able to keep getting further towards being a bit mroe open and talking about it.

[Justwantfun]

Communications is the key but that is hard to do when she doesn't want to talk about it. Have you considered a sex therapist? That may be one solution or even just some type of joint counseling. Having an open mind for sex opens a lot of pleasurable doors.

jwf