Roleplay dressing for sex has a lot to do with fantasy & both of the lovers ability to perform as "someone else" for your lover. This practice allows both of you to step out of your normal sexual role for an evening & pretend. If you've forgotten how to pretend I suggest you watch your kids play or go to the park & watch the local kids pretend. Pretending is something that a lot of adults forget about. It provides a "safe" special place that no one else can screw up.

Now I'm sure a lot of psychiatrists would disagree that this practice has a functional value for most adults & might even call it delusional, but I honestly feel our society has forced us to create these "special places" as an escape from all that bothers us. Roleplay is the sexual version of this behavior & can satisfy many underlying desires, as well as providing a sexual diversion from the "norm". Besides that, I personally think everyone could use an escape from the pressures of the world today.

Discussing Your Fantasy Roleplay

As with any new activity you should talk to your lover about what you would like to try. We suggest that if you haven't read it yet, now is the time to check out our Fantasy Talk Section. There are some good pointers for discussing these exact type of scenarios with your lover. With roleplay you almost need to script out the evenings events. This may seem like a pain but most of the time just dressing in a certain way will not fulfill the desires involved with roleplay.

Usually roleplay will involve finding costuming for each of you. Some of these ideas may be able to be implemented with items around the house or searching out just the right outfit might be required. A good source for these outside costumes can be found at your local costume rental shop. You don't need to tell them what your going to do with them but make sure you give them a good cleaning before you return them.

Another important part of roleplay for most is sticking to the part you are to play throughout the evening. This again requires some pre-thought on both of your parts, a lot of imagination & a few minor acting skills. Don't be afraid to try it out just because you're a little shy about acting or pretending. A great evening of sex can be right around the corner if you are just willing to play along!

A Couple of Ideas to Get You Started

One of the most common roleplay ideas is also the easiest to fulfill. It involves the two of you dressing to kill & then meeting at a bar. The evening begins with the two of you separated & just hanging out & then "discovering" each other, as if for the first time. The evenings events should include all of the flirting & nervousness, as well as the small talk most couples go through when they first meet. This one does take some imagination to follow through but can give you a great night as well as some fun. Take the evening as far as you wish, maybe even allowing each other to do some flirting or hanging out with others at the club. When the night has progressed to a point where you have both relaxed & had some fun try to seduce your "new found" lover & talk them into a motel. It really can be a lot of fun!

Our second example for this month is a little darker than the first & must be considered by both lovers with great detail. It involves the so-called "rape fantasy". As we mentioned in our Fantasy Talk section this is a common & very misunderstood fantasy. No person would ever want to go through the horror of an actual rape. Many people do though have fantasies about being quasi-raped (more like ravished) in a controlled manor by someone they in actuality trust. This fantasy can be achieved through roleplay. The person wishing to have this done to them should find clothing & underwear that they no longer want. How you set up the actual "attack" is your decision. As the attacker begins, they will basically grab you & rip & tear your clothing off, ravishing you at their will & desire. There should be absolutely no violence involved with this idea & must only be attempted by couples with a complete respect & trust for each other. Please discuss this one very carefully & set up rules that both of you understand & can follow. My wife & I have tried this one several times & it does have some thrilling fire to it but it may not be for everyone.

Our last example this month involves uniforms. Many people have some real loves for certain uniforms. Many women are very attracted to military, as well as police uniforms. On the other hand quite a few men have a big thing for nurses uniforms. These uniforms can be used in a multitude of different ideas. If this appeals to you try to set up something that allows you & your lover to meet, as with our first example wearing these uniforms. For those of you not brave enough to go out in public like this, an evening at a motel or even home will suffice. Make sure that you attempt to act the part as well as look the part. The more real the situation becomes for your lover, the more satisfying the sex will become.

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