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Taking Sexy Videos and Photos – Home Made Porn

Justin — Sun, 23 Nov 2008 05:51:33 +0000

Making your own porn, whether for your enjoyment or to share with others touches upon several human instincts that are quite common to both men & women. The first two are exhibitionism & voyeurism. Not everyone will admit it but human beings love to show off. I believe this stems from fighting for attention as a child all the way up to clawing through life trying to get ahead in the world.

Getting noticed means many different things to people, whether attracting a mate or lover or just getting that promotion at work. What this does to many people is to fuel their exhibitionistic tendencies. At the other end of the spectrum is the amazing appetite humans have for watching things. We are voyeuristic by sheer nature. Humans are plain & simple voracious voyeurs (say that 10 times fast). Granted, explicit photos or videos are the extreme of this behavior for the “average” person, but then again I think every member of this site has decided to not be average!

Food For The Eyes!

Sexual stimulation can come in many forms but very often it arrives wrapped in a rented DVD, rated X. I will admit this is quite often geared towards men & has been for many, many years. More & more though women are discovering the visual stimulation of pornography. With that in mind I must ask you one question. What would be more stimulating than photos or video of the two of you making love? At this point in time I expect most of the men are saying “yeah!” & the women have a strange look on their face thinking “Is he crazy?” Maybe I should explain how my wife & I first entered this area. After watching a few of the “off the shelf” plotless porn movies, she made a comment to me that we could probably make a better movie than most of these. The rest is history & you know what, we do make a better movie……well at least for us.

A Few Precautions

Venturing into the world of erotic photography & videos, while quite exciting & stimulating does have some inherent dangers. Mainly I’m referring to having these items found by children, friends or relatives. One of the best commercials I’ve seen on TV lately is the one where the guy brings back the video to the store & then realizes it was his home made video. As funny as this is in this commercial I don’t think anyone wants this in real life. For this reason we offer the following tips:

Buy a safe or install a lock on a drawer to keep these items, especially if you have children. Make sure the key to this protection is either in your possession at all times or very well hidden. Children have a tendency to become very curious of mommy & daddies room as they grow up!
If you have a will drawn up put a clause in it about any such items, along with their location & make sure they are found & destroyed by court order prior to anyone viewing them. I know this sounds a bit morbid but I can’t even imagine what would happen if after you died your family were to find these items while cleaning out your house!
Use caution when posting any such items on the web. Personally I would only post these photos to sites that were of a membership nature & were protected from children’s (and your neighbor’s) eyes.
If you are keeping images or video on your computers make sure you take all necessary precautions securing your computer.
If you take photos or video on your mobile phone be extra careful as they are so easy to lose and once lost you can be sure any videos will make their way on to the net!

One last word of advice for those of you editing your photos on your computer & using Windows. Any photo you view on your system has a shortcut automatically stored in the recent documents menu. To see what I mean press start & scroll up to documents. A pop out menu will appear & a history of both documents & photos is listed. If you were editing a photo called us-sex.jpg last night, your child can go to this menu & click on the us-sex file & it will open, no matter where you have hidden it on your hard drive! To eliminate this problem always clear the document history after editing or viewing any such items. To do this simply right click on your bottom toolbar & scroll up to properties. When the menu appears click on the start menu tab & hit the button that says “clear document history”. This will remove all items from that menu. So much for the computer class (you’ll get my bill next month) let get to the photos!

Equipment & Processing

The modern age of cameras has been a windfall for all who want to be home erotic photographers. Instant & digital cameras, as well as video cameras almost seem like they were built for this very use. Even if you think your budget prohibits an expensive digital camera take another look as they have become so cheap these days. Regular film cameras can be used but the problem of developing these photos then comes into play. Although there are services that say they are for this purpose & promise privacy, we’ve never had the guts to try. Instant photos have come a long way over the years & scanning these photos into your computer is even easier.

Many of the new image editing programs available today can take an instant photo & edit it into a very professional looking picture. The biggest problem with instant cameras is the fact that you usually have a heck of a time getting good shots because most of these don’t have a timer on them. The only way to beat this problem is to break down & buy a digital camera with a timer. These can now be purchased for under $100 & come with the software & cables to import them into your computer. We would also recommend a good tripod. These tripods fit all cameras & video cams. Once you have the equipment the rest is basically up to your personal preferences.

Set the Mood as Well as The Shot

If your going to do it you may as well do it right. Set up whichever room you plan to shoot in before hand. Remove pictures & other such things that may appear in the shot. Make sure your lighting is warm but not too dark. Allow her to put on make up & do her hair & him to shave. Watching these little things will give you the results you desire. One final word on this subject is the throw away rule. If your lover absolutely hates the way they look in a certain photo, have the decency to destroy it. Not doing so will put a big damper on any future photo sessions & never, & I DO MEAN NEVER, post a photo somewhere with out your lovers permission or let anyone else see them. Not following this simple rule of respect for your lover can cause more damage to your relationship than you could possibly imagine.

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Lingerie – There’s Just Something about Satin & Lace

Justin — Sat, 23 Aug 2008 23:55:25 +0000

Whether most people want to admit it or not Lingerie is one of the most powerful sexual turn-ons around today. Men flock to ladies lingerie catalogs as often as the do the typical men’s magazines. Why? Most men feel a woman dressed in sexy lingerie as twice as sexy as being totally nude. There is an air of mystery to the package when lingerie is involved. Lingerie is cut to accent a woman’s curves sometimes creating the illusion of a better overall package. Lastly I feel there is a deep psychological tie to lingerie for men.

Most men have their first glimpse of the female form by reading catalogs & sale flyers that depict women in lingerie. For many men, these images become their first real sexual stimulation & the visual for their first masturbation sessions. Many boys going through puberty will explore their mothers, or sisters lingerie drawer looking for the chance to touch what to that point has only been a piece of newsprint. This creates a very strong bond for most men to women’s lingerie. Sexy lingerie also creates the visual connection between the sweet feminine image & the sexually charged woman. Most women also enjoy the feeling of sexy lingerie in the aspect that the lingerie makes them feel very pretty & frilly. I have spoken to many women who say that great lingerie can affect their overall attitude about themselves, feeling pretty, & sexy at the same time.

We have spoken to many a man who attach an exotic, movie star quality to a woman in a corset, stockings and garters or other sexy lingerie. They seem to also spend more time on foreplay when a woman is dressed for sex like this, personally I think they want to soak up as much of the image of their lover in the sexy outfit as they can. When we are out and the my wife is wearing stockings just the hint of the lace top of the stockings will draw the eye of every guy in the room. The look of intrigue in their eyes is really something to see.

It’s Not Just For the Ladies

Although most lingerie companies gear their product lines towards women, there is a great selection of items available for the men. These products can range from g-strings & thongs to the more conventional underwear made from satin. As the demand for these men’s products grow, so does the supply. Many companies are starting to add men’s sections with just about anything a man, or his lady could ask for. For the men who are more adventurous there are now companies emerging that make a full line of female type lingerie cut to men’s sizes.

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Sploshing (aka Splooshing) – Over The Top Food Fun

Justin — Fri, 02 May 2008 23:52:28 +0000

A new way to play with food came to our attention a few months ago. We were watching one of those late night better sex shows when the topic of sploshing, sometimes called splooshing, came on. Needless to say we were curious since we had never heard of this. The whole idea is to get REALLY messy with food. We are talking buckets of custard, large bowls of pudding, peanut butter, the big bottle of chocolate syrup and so much more. The show even showed people sitting in pies and literally just covering each other with food, laughing their butts off and having a blast. To be very honest it looked like a total riot and we just had to try!

First problem, where can we do this without having to spend three days removing stains? We thought of the bath tub but that seemed a touch constraining. So we broke down and gave it a try on the bed, completely covered with towels to try and stop the stains. We started slowly with some syrups (warmed before hand) and other sticky, slick substances. WOW, the sensations were unlike anything else we had ever experienced! Messy? Yes. Fun and sensual? Oh My God Yes!

OK, this is good and we need to get deeper into it, but again where to do it and really be able to let loose? It took a while to come up with something but one day it hit us like a ton of bricks, a kiddie pool! So off to Ebay we went and bought a 4′ x 6′ blowup pool for $20. The day we got it we anticipated every second waiting. Luckily we had a small compressor to blow it up so while it inflated it was off to the store to find an assortment of goodies for the evenings events. We had 4 different types of sauces, whipped cream, pudding and a nice pie (just had to try it). Warmed up all the sauces and we were off to the kiddy pool.

Well we have to say we have definitely found a new love on this one. The erotic feelings of sauces dripping over you, your lover licking and sucking them off is just unbelievable. The feelings of the sauces between you when your bodies are rubbing together have to be one of the most sensuous things we have ever experienced and make for some earth shattering orgasms. Yeah it’s a real pain to clean up (requires a major shower) and cleaning the pool can be a bit of a pain but the experience is unlike anything else we have ever tried before. For those of you who just can’t stand messy this one isn’t for you but if you can let go this is something you really must try. One word of warning here though … the pie idea. There’s one little problem with this, the crust can really be rude in the wrong places! What we have done to avoid this is to buy pre-made pie filling, heat it up and use it. Works like a charm! Another unforeseen mistake we made was getting blueberry pie filling, we had forgotten how much it stains.

Our Favorite Messy Combos

Since we originally wrote this article we have ventured into the world of sploshing at least once every couple of months and we both have to say we still love it! Yes it’s messy and takes some time to set up for it but the sensations are just so over the top it’s worth every second. We also found that after using chocolate syrup our skin was baby soft! We have also experimented with different things and have come up with a list of our favorites with how we ‘serve’ them and their textures:

Chocolate Syrup – warmed, silky smooth
Smooth Peanut Butter – warmed, smooth and thick
Whipped Cream – cold, smooth when it warms up
Caramel Syrup – warmed, sticky and smooth
Bananas – crushed – very ripe, gooey
Cherry Pie Filling – warmed, sticky
Milk – room temp, smooth
Pudding (pick your favorite flavor) – warmed, silky smooth
Strawberry Syrup – warmed, silky smooth
Grape Jelly – warmed, smooth but very sticky

As we said before we also tried a pie (can’t remember if it was coconut cream or lemon meringue). It was okay but that damn crust was really rude. We also tried Strawberries but those little seeds on them got into some places we don’t even want to mention! This was also true for Strawberry jelly, not a great idea!

So if you love Reese’s peanut butter cups break out the chocolate syrup and peanut butter (you can throw in some whipped cream too). The combination’s are your choice. Sticky, smooth, slick; it’s all up to your mood. We usually warm things just like you would warm a baby bottle, in a pot of water. Make sure you test the temperature before using them on your skin!

Clean up is nothing more than a long shower which if all goes well may start up an ‘instant replay’. One thing to be very careful of though is to make sure you have your floors and carpet covered for that messy trip from the pool to the shower.

Most of all enjoy yourself! Let all those stupid ‘adult’ preconceptions go and have a blast with this. It’s not only great sex it’s also a lot of fun!

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Talking To Your Partner About Past Lovers

Justin — Thu, 20 Mar 2008 03:22:25 +0000

Talking about past lovers isn’t for everyone. It requires a complete acceptance & trust of your lover & their past. I urge you, please do not try this unless you are completely secure in your relationship. Many jealousies can rear their ugly heads during such a conversation. After many years of discussion of our sex life, my wife & I have finally gone through this stage of our relationship & it is, what we consider the final release of inner thoughts & acceptance of each other.

Once again a beautiful & fulfilling experience, but, & I MUST STRESS THIS, we did this after many years of openness & discussion about other topics. If you feel your relationship has come to this point & you do wish to discuss your past sexual experiences, here are a few tips to help you stop a mine from blowing up in your face.

Only The Names Have Been Changed

Putting names to ex-lovers may not be a great idea, especially if the two of you hung out in the same crowds before you met. If your lover insists on names you may want to stop the conversation all together. If you feel comfortable with letting them know exactly who, & believe your relationship has the ability to handle it, by all means divulge, but we feel this may be just a bit too touchy for most relationships.

Leave the Comparisons to Consumer Reports!

Comparing a past lover with your current lover & their abilities could just be the ultimate kiss of death! The old, “were they better than me?” is just about the worst spot anyone can be put in & should be avoided at all costs. This situation is too too touchy for most people to handle whether they were better or not & may put you into a position where you feel you must “fib” a little to save your lovers feelings.

Leave out Gritty Details

I don’t know anyone, no matter how secure they are with themselves or their lover, who can hear all the gritty little details about a past sexual adventure without experiencing a bit of jealousy. Most people feel that their current lover is exactly what they have been looking for all of their life & don’t need that image dragged through the mud in front of their eyes. Knowing what you did with a certain partner should suffice, let’s not go for the graphic blow-by-blow details.

Don’t Try This at Home!

As with any information provided in this site, the choice is yours. We do however feel that this subject is about as volatile as they come & may produce some very ugly results. Once again we will say, unless you feel your relationship has grown to a level of complete trust & openness, stay away from this topic.

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Paint Your Lover With Liquid Latex!

Justin — Mon, 17 Mar 2008 13:21:44 +0000

Every once in a while you really want to try something totally different to spice up your sex life. Something that adds some fun, sensuality and just plain silliness all at one time. We found just such a thing a few months ago in the form of liquid latex. At first the idea may seem a little off in left field but being the adventurers we are we decided to give it a try. We thought we would share our experiences with all of you thinking about trying it but just aren’t sure.

Some Precautions Using Liquid Latex

OK, let’s get the warnings out of the way first. Some of these we learned the hard way so we might as well save you the aggravation. Here are the simple rules we now live by:

READ and FOLLOW the instructions!
When they say apply lotion before applying the latex they mean it!
When they say to make sure you don’t get it on ANY fabric (carpet etc) they mean it!
Make sure to do a test patch on your skin to make sure you aren’t allergic to it

Ok, so much for the warnings (even though the are very important). We bought our first container of Liquid Latex and set up for the nights activities. Some towels on the floor, a sponge paint brush (a few bucks at the local hardware store) and we were ready to give this a try. My wife was the evening’s “victim” so she covered herself with a thin coat of body lotion and we started “painting”. The first thing you notice is the smell. It has a slight ammonia odor but nothing overpowering. I painted on the latex in thin layers covering her body with it (avoiding the genitals I might add). We did have some problems with drips but hey, we had towels down. An hour (and two coats later) she had a sexy layer of drying latex. One problem we did find was that you can’t get a nice even coat with a brush (foam or whatnot). There were “streaks” in the latex but it still looked sexy as hell!

So now that we had the dried latex on, it was time for some fun. We moved to the bedroom and started our normal foreplay but instantly we noticed the latex was not slick as we had expected. It was actually sticky and grabbed wherever I touched it. Luckily we had bought the “slick polish” so we applied it to the latex. It helped quite a bit, adding that nice slippery feeling we had expected. As our foreplay grew in intensity I decided to try ripping off pieces of the latex. I have to admit it was quite erotic to be ripping off parts of the “skin” as we got deeper and deeper into foreplay. Just a bit animalistic I’ll admit but damn it was erotic! By the time we were done most of the liquid latex had been ripped off her body. Quite fun to say the least!

Afterwards we were done we went to clean up the spot we applied the latex and to our horror found that anywhere it had dripped onto the towels it had bleed through the towels and into our brand new plush carpet! OK, lesson #1 learned! DON’T think towels will stop it from getting to your carpet or bed! We spent three days with a pair of scissors cutting it out of our carpet! Cleaning her up was a whole lot easier, a warm shower and 99% of the liquid latex peeled off easily. One word of warning here, don’t let this stuff wash down the drain!

Fast forward a month or so. We decided to try it again. It was quite sensual the first time and made for some really passionate sex so why not? This time we laid down some plastic to apply latex and once again my wife as the victim. Again it went on easy and I tried to stop the streaks by applying thicker, slower brush strokes. In the end we still had some streaking but it did cover better. We applied the slick finish spray and moved to the bedroom for some passionate love BUT when I tried to start ripping the latex off I heard “OWW” more than not. After some great sex my wife informed me she hadn’t applied the body lotion before we put the latex on. It literally took over an hour to peel all of it off while she complained about it hurting. The next morning she was cherry red from head to toe from the latex being pulled off her skin! Lesson #2 learned!

About a month later we thought about trying it again but we didn’t have enough of the original Liquid Latex to bother so I ran down to the local sex shop and bought a generic brand of it (not the brand name Liquid Latex) and we set up for the evening’s fun. Plastic down and body lotion applied we started painting her. As soon as we opened the container we noticed a distinct difference in the ammonia smell, very much stronger! We figured we could deal with it so we started painting. Somewhere through the first coat she started having a hard time breathing. Within a few minutes she was half naked on the kitchen floor read to pass out! OK, lesson #3 learned .. DON’T buy the generic junk!

So at this point you might be wondering if it’s worth it. Well, we would both have to say yes, of course paying close attention to the lessons we’ve learned. My wife describes the feelings of wearing it with these terms:

Sexy
Like you are covered but not, almost like a see through dress
Has a slight tightness (but not constraining) similar to spandex
Like having hands all over your body

For me (with her wearing it) I can only describe it as super slick and sexy. Seeing her in it is one major turn on and painting her is a blast! But the part I really like is tearing it off her during passionate sex. It really makes the intensity of the sex reach new levels! We will definitely use it again (the real stuff that is) and my wife has said that if we can get it a little less streaky she would considering going out to a club wearing it as a top! Oh, and before you ask why we haven’t tried it on me yet, it’s called body hair. Sorry I’m not quite ready for a full body shave yet and I don’t want to use it as a wax after sex!

You may be able to get liquid latex from your local sex shop. If not then it’s available from Stockroom.com.

They have a liquid latex starter kit that includes everything you need to give this a go yourselves. They also carry just the liquid latex if you find this is something you enjoy you can buy the latex in red, black or purple.

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Whatever Happened to Love?

Justin — Fri, 07 Mar 2008 19:51:11 +0000

Every day I read the paper & watch the news. The divorce rate is at 60% this year, my god why bother! I hear that friends & family are getting divorced, it just didn’t work. To be honest with you I get so damn mad, & sometimes hurt that I want to run off into the sunset screaming. What the hell is wrong with all of these people? Is it that they don’t think before getting married, or has divorce become the easy excuse for people that are too damn lazy to put some effort into their relationship?

I’m honestly starting to believe there should be a test required prior to getting married & a minimum required time to make an effort before being granted a divorce.

Now I do understand some of these divorces & have myself seen some horrible marriages that had to end, it does happen. What I don’t understand is the people who get divorced over petty differences. I see articles & TV shows about how men & women are so different & why they have so much trouble, in general, understanding each other. Hell yes we’re different, it wouldn’t be much fun if we were the same. What bothers me about the whole thing are most couples inability to accept these differences & communicate their wants, needs & desires to each other. Why doesn’t someone open their mouth & talk about it. OK, you’re probably saying they talk, but you know what, they don’t listen to each other! What is the good of talking if no ones listening!

I don’t know, maybe I’m the strange one. I always said that once I got married I was going to do whatever it took to make it work. I was told by a very wise lady, my aunt, that marriage & relationships are a 100% giving proposition with minimal returns. I’m also probably very lucky, I found the woman of my dreams & she feels as strongly about our relationship & this plague of divorce as I do. Now don’t get me wrong, our marriage has had it’s problems & ups & downs, everyone’s has them, but we worked through them together & came out of the problems together. Do we fight? Yes, once & a while we do, but we have learned what we consider to be the key element of solving these arguments & our problems, it’s called communication!

Just like anything else in this world, if no one mentions the problem or airs their grief’s, nothing will ever change. Imagine how bad the governments would become if they were allowed to go years on end with no one challenging them or complaining about problems. It would be havoc, & folks that’s exactly what is happening to a lot of relationships out there. Both parties keep it bottled in, except for the screaming matches when no one’s listening anymore, until finally one day someone says it’s over.

People spend so much time talking these days but no one seems to hear what the other is saying. Have we all forgotten how to communicate on an honest & open level? I honestly believe a lot of it has to do with this success driven, rapid-fire, do or die society we have created. Everyone is working day in & day out trying to reach the pinnacle of what we perceive to be success, a big house, 2 cars, 2.5 kids (god I love that term, what idiot thought of that) & a fat bank book.

Lately we all seem to beat ourselves silly trying to reach these goals & completely forget that life is about love, friends & family. It has to stop soon or we will probably destroy ourselves as a race. If most couples would put 1/10 the amount of effort into their marriage as they did their careers I think the divorce rate would drop through the floor. I mean really, what the hell good is money, cars & the other material things in life if you’re not happy!

Another big pet peeve of mine & a big reason for breakups is cheating. Except for the few people out their who just can’t keep it in their pants, or their pants on so to speak, I honestly think most of these problems stem from, once again, the couples inability to communicate their wants, needs & desires to each other. I’ve heard people say “it got boring”, well who’s fault is that. Did you try anything to spice it up? NO! Once again, if no one knows it’s broken it won’t get fixed! Every relationship goes through phases of sexual boredom yet there are a million things to do to help with this. That’s basically were the idea for this site came from.

When I first came up with the idea for this web site I was thinking primarily about how hard it is for the average couple to get information on sexual activities that might interest them. As I stated in the preview pages of this site, my wife & I have spent years searching for this very information. We never wanted to get bored with each other sexually so we explored the possibilities. It has been a painstaking, sometimes very embarrassing 15 years. Plain & simple it is very tough to find information on spicing up your sex life. Granted the bookstores are loaded with books on this subject, but most of them read like a dictionary. Even the ones that are worth reading never seem to tell you how to get involved in these activities. They just throw the information at you & let you figure it out for yourself.

Through years of this research we have found many things to be very enjoyable that at one time probably would have shocked us. What did we get for all of these years of work…..one amazing sex life & a great relationship. Hence we decided to start this site. As the site started going together I started to realize that we have a lot more to offer here than just sex advice. We have the ability to give couples a “safe haven” away from their everyday maniacal life. A place to come & learn, meet new people & discuss new ideas without the fear of ridicule & just have some fun!

When first presented with the idea of posing for pictures & divulging sexual secrets about ourselves, both myself & my wife were a little leery. What would happen if our friends & families found out. This attitude has also changed with the building of the site. I for one, & my wife are proud of who we are & are not going to run & hide from what we believe to be a great way of life, sexually & otherwise.

We honestly hope you will join us & at least try, for your own good & the good of your relationship. We also realize that some of the content of this site may be quite shocking to some. To those we would say, if it bothers you DON’T LOOK. Use only the parts of the site that appeal to you. No one, & I mean no one is forcing anyone into anything that they are bothered by, but we do feel that this site has a little something for everyone.

Sex isn’t everything in a relationship, but it is a common bond that may just start the process to bring each & every one of you a better relationship with your lover. The common thread throughout this entire site though, is communication. Look at your husband, wife or lover & really think about how you feel about them deep down inside. Think about everything you have been through together both good & bad & what originally brought you together. I know deep down inside there is a well of passion & emotion that is dying to be tapped & that person you are looking at is the one who probably deserves it more than anyone else in the world. Stop the preconceived faces you put on for the rest of the world & open up to your lover, tell them how you feel, really feel. Let them know that you are there for them & will be through thick & thin. Let them know you care! You’ll be amazed how good it feels & above all COMMUNICATE WITH THEM!

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Exhibitionism – Are You A Show Off?

Justin — Fri, 03 Aug 2007 12:46:25 +0000

The word exhibitionism probably summons up visions of flashers & other assorted characters for most people, but truth be told a little “showing off the goods” can add quite a spark to any couples sex life. Just the right amount of tease along with a playful amount of skin can start to heat things up within seconds. This applies to both lovers in many ways.

Add in the danger of a public or semi-public display & things can get down right overheated. The only trick to these ideas is the guts to pull them off, & not get caught by the wrong parties! Even if you aren’t quite ready for the challenge of a public display a little exhibitionism around the house can get you started.

A Simple Start

Start getting your lovers attention by wearing something a bit too tight, something that really shows off your assets. My wife has a tank top that is just a tad tight & ribbed just right. Put that together with a tight pair of jeans & I’m chasing her around like a dog in heat. It’s really that simple. Find something to wear that just demands attention & that your lover can’t help noticing. It may take a little time to find the right combination but once you do it’s well worth it!

Men can try the old skin tight jeans too, & for that extra bonus skip the undies. Don’t be afraid to strut your stuff! As things progress try a super slinky dress the next time you go out or pants & a shirt that show the world what you’ve got. Who cares if the rest of the world is looking, you both know who you’re going home with tonight! Maybe that skirt is just a bit too short & every time you move the wrong way a glimpse of stockings or butt can’t help but show. Maybe those jeans are just so tight the women will wonder if you’ve got a banana in your pocket. Let them look, & drool because your lover will be drooling along with them. It’s amazing how hot a lover can get when they see how hot & bothered others get looking at you.

Of course if one of you have that nasty green-eyed monster called jealousy lurking around you better make sure you can handle it. Some people just loose it when the think their lover is getting too much attention.

Turning Up The Volume

Once you’ve built up your courage to venture deeper into this idea try giving your lover a flash here & there. Send them a naked Polaroid with their lunch. One of my favorite TV commercials was the one where a wife calls her husband during a board meeting & despite his insistence that he is busy she convinces him to open his briefcase & look inside. The look on his face when he realizes she had slipped a photo of her, obviously in a very seductive pose by his reaction, is priceless.

Like we said before this isn’t just for the women either. The men can do this just as easily. One of the biggest problems with couples that have been together a while is that they have forgotten the art of the tease. Let’s face it, half of dating & attracting potential lovers is teasing them into a frenzy, so why stop after your together? Try jumping into the pool, lake or ocean & then stripping of your suit. If that doesn’t get their attention you had better call an ambulance!

The Excitement of Danger

Taking exhibitionism to an even higher level some will start to allow strangers a glimpse of the “Goodies”. Many people get a super sexual charge by allowing themselves to be caught in what most would consider an embarrassing moment. Many women enjoy the thrill of going panty-less in public & bending over at just the right moment. Man will wear shorts that leave nothing to the imagination & tend to “let things slip out”, if you get our drift. Others still will allow themselves to be caught in the act, just for the sexual charge. Many a trucker has put out a CB alert that a couple is “going at it” while driving down the highway!

While very exciting you must always create a safety zone between yourselves & the spying public. Make sure to take a few tips from our outdoor sex article & remember, if you get caught by the law, don’t tell them we said it was OK!

The Ultimate Private Exhibition

A private exhibition for your lover can really add to your bedroom fire. Performing for your lover may be very awkward at first but once this is overcome it’s usually fireworks indoors. Many will start with simple stripping to get their lover going but this too can be taken to an ultimate level. As the strip progresses begin to masturbate. Watching a lover take themselves to the highest heights of ecstasy may not be for everyone but their is no lover in the world that won’t climb the walls watching you.

This idea works very well for those of you into erotic photography & video taping. Pull out your favorite toy(s) & drive them nuts while you drive yourself nuts. Guaranteed to produce some of the wildest sex you’ve ever had!

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